Have you ever wondered why some people seem to be good at living life?
They seem to glide effortlessly through life and they know how to roll with life’s punches. What’s their secret?
It’s no secret, they just know and apply the rules of mental equilibrium.
Lets go through them:
- Don’t try to change the unchangeable.
The only influence we really have is over ourselves, so we can only change our mindset, how we respond to our circumstances
- Don’t live in the Past, it’s gone!
You can’t change anything that has gone before, so turn your attention to the Here and Now. The only way to live is in the Present, it’s the only life you have.
- Don’t live in the Future, it’s not here yet!
Don’t let fear of the future ruin your present. The Here and Now is the moment you must appreciate, it is your Reality.
- Stay connected to your Healthy Mental Functioning.
What is it? It’s your Natural state of mind, your common sense, your emotional buoyancy, it’s your ability to adapt to your circumstances, it’s your sense of perspective, your internal equilibrium, your feeling of peace, it’s INNATE!
Sounds like it’s pretty important, doesn’t it?
Your healthy functioning is NOT concerned with what happens in your life. It is concerned with how you relate to what happens.
Your healthy functioning is what makes happiness possible!
- Don’t align yourself exclusively with your Thought System.
It is only concerned with how you compare with others, your pursuits, your intellect, your ego gratification. It’s job is to think, compare, contrast and analyse. This is inconsistent with enjoyment.
The difference between your thought system and your healthy mental functioning is:
Your thought system comes up with what “it thinks” would make you happy.
Your healthy functioning is what makes happiness possible.
- Every moment in your life is a Choice Point.
Do you think negative or do you rise to the challenge?
Can you direct your thoughts to good, positive thoughts?
It’s your choice!
- Live in the Present Moment. It’s the only life you have!
Next time you feel depressed notice where your thoughts are.
They will be in the future or reviewing the past.
BUT, life is Right Now!
You can live in three different time dimensions in your head.
The Past—“WHY” mode, you’re thinking about Why things happened.
The Future—“WHAT IF” mode-Fear of the future.
The Present—This is the only one actual time dimension; the Present.
In conclusion: I hope you remember this blog post because there is a lot of WISDOM in it.
The idea that has helped me let go of the past and future is to understand that:
Life keeps moving forward—it doesn’t care what I think of do, SO I might as well NOT WASTE my time on things I can’t control.
Life keeps moving forward and so WE MUST keep moving forward.
All these rules have ONE GOAL:
GET THE MOST OUT OF LIFE.
AND THAT’S THE ONLY POINT THERE IS!
Also published on Medium.