When you’re living with an uncontrollable situation and/or illness strikes, life is turned upside down!
LIFE IS SUFFERING: In between suffering you have some pleasant experiences, some longer than others.
This truth describes the conditions of life that are shared by all humans.
Birth, aging, illness, sorrow, pain, grief and death. Plus losing what we cherish.
Notice none of the conditions are pleasant experiences, they are mentally and physically painful.
This is a honest assessment of the human condition.
When these conditions occur we need to learn how to respond wisely–Accept them and carry on.
It is the relentless effort to ESCAPE what we CANNOT ESCAPE and to CHANGE what we CANNOT CHANGE that leads us to dissatisfaction with life and suffering.
When we resist painful experiences we CREATE suffering.
ACCEPTANCE of “WHAT IS” is the way to contentment and less suffering.
WANT/DON’T WANT MIND–We want ONLY pleasant experiences and we don’t want unpleasant ones. This creates suffering. The human condition doesn’t operate this way.
The end of mental suffering is possible even when suffering in body.
The path to inner peace: Wise Understanding–knowing what to expect in life.
Wise Action–Enjoy the present moment, it’s the only life you have.
With the end of suffering comes enlightenment, liberation , freedom and peace of mind.
NOTHING IS PERMANENT–Anything can happen at any time.
With impermanence comes uncertainty and unpredictability.
This brings stress and anxiety because we crave security and assurance.
WE DON’T CONTROL MUCH OF OUR EXPERIENCE!
OH, HOW WE LONG FOR PEACE OF MIND!
So what’s the best way to get through the day?
Go through the motions one day at a time.
Stay calm and keep on keeping on.
Enjoy the present, it’s the ONLY life you have!
Reflect on Impermanance–the fact that every aspect of my life is uncertain, unpredictable and in constant flux.
Look after each moment, cherishing what you STILL CAN DO, and being aware that everything could change in an instant.
EQUANIMITY–is a sublime state, it is mental calmness in a difficult situation.
When you dwell in Equanimity, you are able to stand up to whatever is present in the moment, including unpleasant experiences, with a mind that is at peace.
When you’re ill, you can’t predict what symptoms will hit you on a particular day.
That’s why we have good days and bad days.
I am resigned to the fact that I might be ill for the rest of my life. If that’s the case, I know that I feel better the more I can ACCEPT that possibility without bitterness.
Try to accept the unexpected complications that arise in you life. Then you won’t suffer mentally.
Don’t Complain, complaining creates suffering!
When you’re old, there’s lots to complain about:
On going aches and pains, loss of the inclination and the ability to do things, and uncertainty about the future.
Most complaining centres around our desire to control what’s happening to us.
We don’t control much, but we can respond with acceptance and calmness.
Complaining makes you more stressed and unhappy.
MINDFULNESS is the practice of turning your attention “with care” to your experience at the moment.
With care means paying attention with kindness and compassion.
This can help you make peace with your life as it is at the moment.
You must keep your boat afloat!
You can go through the motions TODAY, one day at a time.
And ENJOY the day as much as possible because it’s the ONLY life you have.